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by riley harrison

Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers

Anthony Robbins

 Good questions are a source of inspiration (other sources could be creative people, insightful blogs and books, rousing music and  exhilarating new experiences).  Being inspired ALWAYS feels good; why leave it to chance. Why not be proactive in seeking inspiration. Inspired people are more creative, decisive, have higher energy and consequently they do more, achieve more and feel more fulfilled.  The immediate answers to the questions posed are almost secondary in benefit. Good questions can stimulate the mind to think and question further. Prolonged unhappiness can mean you aren’t properly aligned with your true desires. Questioning can identify root causes to your unhappiness and highlight the needed changes.

Here are a couple of questions about questions:  Can you answer them honestly? Do the answers hurt or intimidate?

If you can answer questions truthfully, you may find insights that can lead to greater wisdom which may lead to change and the change could lead to a larger life and the larger life might  give more purpose to your existence and that is the answer you were probably seeking in the first place.  These are some questions posed by a Jungian analyst whom I greatly respect:

  •  Where has life blessed you?
  • What works well in your life and what isn’t working?
  • Where are you blocked by fear?
  • Where are you stuck?
  • Where are you resistant to change, what price are you paying and is the price truly worth it?
  • What ideas, habits and behavioral patterns are inhibiting you from pursuing what you desire? What are the secondary gains that keep you mired in inactivity –  security, comfortable predictability, avoidance of risk?
  • Where do you need to grow up and take responsibility for your life?
  • Where have you felt a  tinge of yearning  but never pursued or investigated the feeling further.
  • What are you willing to commit to (e.g.  a specific long term relationship, personal growth or  healthy living) ?

This isn’t a test in which correct answers (as determined and agreed to by others) matter. Just jot down what first comes to your mind and see if there are any insights or wisdom that will help you move forward and grow. Learn to cultivate the art of asking good questions, it’s the proper path for those seeking truth and authenticity.




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Bill Dorman March 11, 2012 at 11:09 pm

Good questions indeed and if you answer them truthfully and be willing to make changes to improve where you are, your station in life, it is certainly a step in the right direction.
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riley harrison March 12, 2012 at 8:50 pm

Hi Bill
I agree, so I guess we need to be willing to learn how to ask ourselves the best questions possible.
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Stephen Guise March 12, 2012 at 12:21 am

Great stuff. Asking questions (and the right ones) is a foundation for growth. It’s when we accept everything about our current behavior and circumstances as “the way it is” that we become stagnant. I’ve been making an effort to be more assertive about what I truly want to do. It takes time to change, but I’ll always take forward progress in any amount.
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riley harrison March 12, 2012 at 9:00 pm

Hello Stephen,
Informative answers to good questions is only half the battle, the hard part is to follow up with the appropriate action. This ain’t always easy. I really envy people who know what they truly want to do. I wish I had that clarity. I guess good feelings and positive emotions are clues that you are on the right track. Take care and avoid all eight legged critters.
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riley harrison March 12, 2012 at 9:09 pm

I forgot to mention that the college I attended (University of Richmond) had the spider as their mascot – probably not the school for you.
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Lori Gosselin March 12, 2012 at 4:56 pm

These are great questions Riley! I can see this as a great stimulus for discussion among a group of very good friends! I particularly like the 7th one!
I use the valuable question a lot! My typical question starts “How will I…” I know I’ll do what I set out to do. The only question is how and I open up the question to see how the answer comes!
Do you use these questions or are they all in your past now?
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riley harrison March 12, 2012 at 9:02 pm

Hi Lori,
I use those questions everyday Lori. They anchor me.
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Galen Pearl March 15, 2012 at 5:15 pm

These are great questions indeed. The one about being stuck and the price of change is especially on target. I was just talking to a young person recently about a bad habit he has. He said he liked it and he didn’t like anyone telling him that he couldn’t do it. I acknowledged that it was his choice to make, but that he should make it knowing what price he was paying for it. Then, if the price was worth it to him, fine.

Great questions. I am going to think about these for myself.
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riley harrison March 17, 2012 at 5:40 pm

Hi Galen,
I think that sometime we aren’t aware of the price we pay or miss the connection between the price and the behavior or thought. Fine tuning your awareness really helps you to pick up some subtleties. Sometimes we just aren’t aware of the magnitude of the cost for what seems like neutral or inconsequential behavior. I really enjoyed your latest post (She Was Never Bored!).
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sean crawford March 17, 2012 at 1:50 pm

Hello Riley,
Good questions.
Well, a part of me has realistically questioned my family’s silly standards, but I didn’t want to wimp out. You know, just as someone who leaves an abusive sports team feels bad about wimping by leaving. What has finally turned the tide for me, after all these days of questioning, has been a koan as a breakthrough: If you meet the family on the road, kill them…. Somehow for me this koan breaks through false loyalty.
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riley harrison March 17, 2012 at 5:29 pm

Hi Sean,
For me loyalty is tricky stance to maintain. We are often asked to obey rules that are in conflict with our best interests. And if we act in our best interest, shame or guilt can be triggered. Tough decisions ensue; it’s a real balancing act.
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Caroline72 March 22, 2012 at 4:48 pm

I agree that good question has a good we should learn how to response to every question.
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Nick April 9, 2012 at 8:14 pm

Nice to see a nice honest website from time to time.


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